Maximizing Performance Through Applied Common Sense*

Hello Everyone,

Get your Merry on!

Dr. Mitchell Perry



 HO! HO! HO! JINGLE, JINGLE, JINGLE... OMG, IT'S KRIS KRINGLE!!!

It's time for sleigh bells, and Santa, and children demanding,
Chocolates, and gingerbread... our waistlines expanding.

Off criticize, off chastise, and offload your Grinch,
On spiritize, on cheeryize - find your smile... it's a cinch!

Your worry, your thrashing, your obsessing must leave,
With your family and friends, t'is the season to Believe.

As you imagine all day, your dreams warm and aglow,
Your lovee and you, smoochin' 'neath the mistletoe!

Fill the season with caroling, and be sure to be quick,
You know it's for certain, you'll be seen by St. Nick!

With Rudolph, and bubbly, and chestnuts together,
You can kick up your heels, and keep dancing forever!

As you think of the stockings, and tinsel, and bows, 
New clothes and shoes, from your head to your toes!

So start wrapping the presents, and hanging the holly,
Trimming the tree, and displaying your jolly!

Add the egg nog, the cakes, and the goodies gourmet,
You must join in the weight gain without further delay!

When your life is so touched, it's the way of the heart,
You sure have touched ours, right from the start!

On our sleigh ride together, measure for measure,
Instead of "not bad", it's indeed been OUR PLEASURE! 

From all of us at JM PERRY, with abiding affection we bequeath,
For YOU and your MERRY, enjoy a smile, a hug, and a holiday wreath!

May you and yours have a VERY MERRY PERRY HOLIDAY!

MERRY MERRY FROM JM PERRY! 

To get people to do what you want them to do, you must first position what you want in concert with what is important to them. 

Dr. Mitchell Perry


Communicating with Access Codes

Have you ever noticed that sometimes you meet someone and you get along with them easily?  Yet other times you meet someone and it seems to be uphill all the time.  You have to do lots of "maintenance" and getting along with them seems like a chore.  There are even times when you know someone for a long time and it is still always difficult to get along with them.  Why?  Because the people with whom you get along well are people who are wired like you, and the people with whom you have difficulty are wired differently.

Suppose you could understand more up front how people are wired and you could adjust your presentation and approach accordingly?  Getting along with people successfully is kind of like gaining "Access" to them.  When you understand their "Access Codes," you can then inter-relate easily.

There are 8 Access Codes to consider when you approach people.  

The codes are:

Going Towards / Going Away
Trust / Suspicion
Strategic / Tactical
Warm-up / Direct
Empower / Control
Others / Self
Feelings / Facts
Process / Results

When you understand these codes and know how to use them, you will gain "ACCESS" much faster and get what you want.


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Applied Common Sense*
*Because common sense is very uncommon...

The Dr. Mitchell Perry Show: Applied Common Sense* Because common sense is very uncommon... airs Saturdays from 9:00 am - 11:00 am (Pacific) on KVTA AM1520.  It is a little bit reasoning, a little bit education, a lot of laughs, and a whole lot of fun!  Every Saturday morning Dr. Perry takes calls LIVE on his radio show on everything -- including relationships, business advice, personal growth, and the ever popular... "Common Sense is very Uncommon!"

He has a knack for saying it like it is without beating down his listeners.  You can be sure that if there is an answer to your problem, Dr. Perry will help you figure it out.  Listeners call in to get advice, discuss the day's events or simply to give their opinion on the latest topics.


The number to call the studio live is toll free
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 Today's Tickle
Will Rogers, who died in a 1935 plane crash, was one of the greatest political sages this country has ever known.  Here is what he had to say ABOUT GROWING OLDER...
First, eventually you will reach a point when you stop lying about your age and start bragging about it.
Second, the older we get, the fewer things seem worth waiting in line for.
Third, some people try to turn back their odometers.  Not me; I want people to know why I look this way.  I've traveled a long way, and some of the roads weren't paved.
Fourth, when you are dissatisfied and would like to go back to youth, think of Algebra.
Fifth, you know you are getting old when everything either dries up or leaks.
Sixth, I don't know how I got over the hill without getting to the top.
Seventh, one of the many things no one tells you about aging is that it's such a nice change from being young.
Eighth, one must wait until evening to see how splendid the day has been.
Ninth, being young is beautiful, but being old is comfortable.
Tenth, long ago, when men cursed and beat the ground with sticks, it was called witchcraft.  Today it's called golf.
And finally, if you don't learn to laugh at trouble, you won't have anything to laugh at when you're old.  

When you help people come to conclusions you will let them have your way. Dr. Mitchell Perry

The Art of Ultimate Persuasion When you are in a conversation with someone who is speaking, do you find yourself just waiting for him or her to stop talking so you can start?  And, while you are waiting are you rehearsing your beautifully prepared gospel according to you? How often are you trying to force-feed others with your opinions?  Are you telling more than listening?  Does it seem often frustrating that people resist your advice and refuse to change? Remember what Dr. Stephen Covey said in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, seek first to understand, then be understood. The message here is that you are much more likely to get others to change when they conclude it makes sense to do so.  If you first understand them, they will be less resistant to your ideas and suggestions when you make them.  If you want others to change, you must ask first, and be prepared to listen. Ask first what is important to them, what's on their mind, how do they feel, what's going on, etc.   Then listen.  Understand, empathize, learn, and appreciate their position first.  It's remarkable how much more receptive others will be toward your position when they have been heard first and understood.  So the message here is this:  When you are interested in persuading others and the issues are important to you, FIRST ASK QUESTIONS AND LISTEN.  When you do this, people will be less resistant to change and more likely to adjust their position and follow your suggestions.

The Art of Ultimate Persuasion:  Engaging "THE PULL"          Letting Them Have Your Way   Remember, to get people to do what you want them to do, you must first position what is important to them.  People will engage, adjust, sign-up, and agree, when--in their terms--it makes sense to do so.  And it always makes more sense when they come to their own conclusions. "THE PULL" makes this happen. "THE PULL" method is very logical and understandable, and yet it is very counter-intuitive and disparate from what you are used to doing when you try to persuade anyone to do anything.  When you get fluent with "THE PULL,"  you will persuade sooner, resolve conflict faster, and realize much less "pushback."      Engaging The Pull CD:           $19.95 Engaging The Pull MP3:         $16.95

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The Magic is in the obvious... so, Embrace Common Sense! As we all know, common sense is very uncommon!  That is why we have  put together some video vignettes that are sensible, prudent, practical, logical, and reflecting sound judgement.  There are now 12 video vignettes on several subjects including: Responding to a Thank You The Yeah Buts The Success Formula Taking Things Too Personally Common Sense Shoulding on Others Reinforcement Multiple Options Thank You Notes Announcing Your Honesty  Scooping We've had great response so far, with over 3800 views!  There are many more to come, so please let us know what you think.  Log on to http://www.youtube.com/user/JMPerryLearning#p/u. If you want to DO WHAT YOU KNOW, you must equip yourself with the TOOLS to help you engage COMMON SENSE*         *and common senses is very uncommon.

For You, Radio Worth Your Time!              Laugh, Learn, Live!  "THE DR. MITCHELL PERRY SHOW" Applied Common Sense* *Because common sense is very uncommon...

Did you hear Patch Adams, MD on the show recently?  The real one?  If you missed it, click here http://drmitchellperryshow.blogspot.com/ to listen to Patch Adams as a guest on my radio show.    The Dr. Mitchell Perry Show: Applied Common Sense* Because common sense is very uncommon... airs Saturdays from 9:00 am - 11:00 am (Pacific) on KVTA AM1520.  It is a little bit reasoning, a little bit education, a lot of laughs, and a whole lot of fun!  Every Saturday morning Dr. Perry takes calls LIVE on his radio show on everything -- including relationships, business advice, personal growth, and the ever popular... "Common Sense is very Uncommon!" He has a knack for saying it like it is without beating down his listeners.  You can be sure that if there is an answer to your problem, Dr. Perry will help you figure it out.  Listeners call in to get advice, discuss the day's events or simply to give their opinion on the latest topics. The number to call the studio live is toll free  855- DR-PERRY (377-3779).  If you missed the latest radio show or you want to hear Dr. Perry tackle your favorite topic once again, click on http://drmitchellperryshow.blogspot.com/ to find PODCASTS of The Dr. Mitchell Perry Show past radio shows.

Today's Tickle

WATCH FOR THESE CONSOLIDATIONS IN 2013 Hale Business Systems, Mary Kay Cosmetics, Fuller Brush, and W.R. Grace Co. will merge and become:  Hale, Mary, Fuller, Grace. Polygram Records, Warner Brothers, and Zesta Crackers join forces and become:  Poly, Warner, Cracker. 3M will merge with Goodyear and become:  MMMGood. Zippo Manufacturing, Audi Motors, Dofasco, and Dakota Mining will merge and become:  ZipAudiDoDa. FedEx is expected to join its competitor, UPS and become:  FedUp. Fairchild Electronics and Honeywell Computers will become:  Fairwell Honeychild.  Grey Poupon and Docker Pants are expected to become:  PouponPants.

ARE YOU A PERFECTIONIST?  

Perhaps you have a need to line-up your food boxes according to size, or arrange your closet by color, fabric, and space between the hangers, or alphabetize your cans of soup?  Wait a minute... if you are now thinking, "That's a great idea!"  OMG... keep reading!

Do you obsess about your looks, house, or work?  Do you truly think that your standards of perfection help keep you striving? Do you ever notice you seem to be always anxious and/or cranky?  

It's time to re-evaluate your perfection obsession - let's add some common sense!  

Dr. Mitchell Perry


The Perfection Obsession:  A Set-Up for a Let Down

Many people have standards, values, and guiding principles by which they live.  For these individuals, standards and values are helpful guidelines for living; on the other hand, sometimes these standards become too rigid and strict.  In some cases, the standard expectations of excellence are so high that the individual becomes obsessed with having to be perfect.  This is called the "Perfection Obsession."

I have encountered countless people, both personally and professionally, who are obsessed with being perfect.  In moderation, striving for excellence is a terrific basic governing value.  Yet, many of us take "having to be perfect" to the extreme, and later develop psychological, physiological, and interpersonal disorders which often result in emotional prison.

I often find multi-dimensional origins to the perfection obsession.  When suffering from perfection obsession, people frequently cultivate an unshakable irrational belief system in addition to rigid behavior patterns.  Dr. Albert Ellis presents the perfection obsession as another one of his eleven irrational ideas that contributes strongly to mental illness and emotional disorders.  He describes this irrational obsession as "the idea that one must be thorough, competent and achieving in all possible respects, and if perchance this is not achieved, there is something terribly wrong."  As you can see, when we become firmly entrenched in this kind of thinking, we become anxious, irritated, depressed, or hostile if we're exposed as being imperfect.

Sometimes people who are afflicted with perfection obsession have grown up in a double-bind family environment.  A double-bind family environment is a "damned if you do/damned if you don't," or "Catch 22" situation.  For example, suppose a child is continually told the following two conflicting messages by his parents or other authority figures:
"You'll never amount to anything unless you achieve."
"Whatever you achieve will never be good enough."
If this sounds familiar, you have three options:

To keep achieving in hopes of reaching perfection some day, or
To become so miserable and defeated that it leads to severe depression.
Go crazy - (dip into the prozac).
Most people with the perfection obsession choose the first option.  The perfection obsession can manifest itself in a variety of ways.  Some of the behavior patterns are familiar -- those of a workaholic, a narcissist, a compulsive cleaner, a neat nick, over-achiever, and an ultimate authority on every subject.

Workaholics constantly work to the point of masochism.  Most are working to compensate for intense feelings of inadequacy; in this case, a fear of being less than perfect.  By committing their time and energy to work and by excluding other people, they feel safer - that is to say, it is less likely that other people will discover they are in fact imperfect.

Other people can become "perfect" narcissists - obsessed with their appearance, making sure they look perfectly neat, coifed, clean, groomed, pressed, smoothed, sprayed, made-up, tanned, physically shaped, and coordinated.  The risk here is that "perfect" people might avoid potentially fun or educational activities that would expose them as being imperfect.  As a result, the "perfect" person may seldom relax for fear of having an imperfect physical image.  This narcissistic condition has become greatly amplified in the past two decades.  An example is the movie "Perfect" which portrays a woman's obsession with exercise to create the flawless body.  Another example is the addiction with plastic surgery - as a result of a distorted view of your physical self, often referred to as body dysformia.

Many people are concerned about cleanliness and orderliness at home and work.  The neat-nick, however, is obsessed with cleanliness and orderliness. This person will spend hours cleaning every nook and cranny in the kitchen, will work for days making the office files letter perfect, or will devote the entire weekend to scrubbing the back porch and driveway.  The compulsive neat-nick's behavior ensures the maintenance of control.  The neat nick fears losing control because that would mean revealing personal imperfections.

Still other people can become obsessed with perfection in their thinking, dialogue, and knowledge.  Have you ever dealt with someone who has an opinion and an answer for everything?  These people like to be the ultimate authority.  They will oftentimes read voraciously and store vast amounts of knowledge and will likely get quite anxious if the answer fails to immediately come to mind or if memory fails for even a moment.  Professional people, in particular, can become obsessed with perfection in their chosen field.  The idea of saying "I don't know" is unthinkable.  Instead there is a recorded message playing internally that says, "unless I am a perfect, flawless professional, other people will lose respect for me."  An additional problem that arises from this erroneous thinking is that other people begin to expect perfection from professionals who promote infallibility.  This leads to a tough bind.  I wonder if there would be less medical malpractice litigation if some physicians were less obsessed with projecting perfection, and if the public could allow them to be fallible and human?

The difficult part of being obsessed with perfection is the continual anxiety about making mistakes and exposing humanness, fallibility and imperfection.  The obsessive person thinks, "if I make a mistake, I will lose respect," and "if I'm imperfect, I'm vulnerable and out of control."  Notice how often we tell ourselves those lines?  This belief system states that anything less than perfect would be received with disapproval in other people's eyes - an extension of the childhood double-bind scenario.

IN REALITY, THE CONTRARY IS TRUE.  We actually like people less for their perfections because perfection tends to scare and intimidate us.  If we encounter someone who appears perfect, we are immediately reminded of our own imperfections, which can make us feel uncomfortable and inadequate.  In addition, we find it difficult to identify with someone who is perfect.  We are able to relax only when we encounter someone who, while having high standards, also lets his or her imperfections and "human qualities" show through.  The more human a person is, the more we are able to feel comfortable and identify with this person.

Take a look at Oprah Winfrey, she is fabulously successful, loved and admired by millions of people -- and she has always been willing to expose her failings and soft underbelly.  Do you suppose she is so admired because she is willing to be imperfect?

The perfection obsession is oriented toward reactive thinking and is motivated by the potential consequences of failing to do something.  "Perfect" people are unable to relax because they are always making an effort to be perfect - reacting to the fear of the potential consequence of appearing imperfect, flawed, and out of control.  This constant reactive obsession results in anxiety, dogmatism, and lowered creative potential and performance.  If we are unable to relax, we are denying ourselves the opportunity to grow; therefore, learning and progress are halted.

What can you do?

Ask yourself this question:  "What is the worst that can happen if I am less than perfect?"  Really consider this question because chances are, the answer is hardly fatal.
Practice saying, "I don't know" when in fact you find yourself without an answer.  People will be quite accepting of your limitations.
Consider leaving the house (or a small portion of it) messy for one day.  It is interesting to see that your house, friends, and you too, will survive, and as a result, the obsession decreases.
List all of your standards on paper and consider the standards that are unreasonable.  Then, rewrite and adjust them to more reasonable standards.  The anxiety automatically diminishes.
Now ask yourself:

What am I noticing about myself and my perfection obsession?
What are my options to alter these behaviors?
What am I learning about these options?
What will I now do differently?

Do you ever notice how some people seem to be on a mission to drive you crazy?  They clearly appear to want you to enjoy their unhappiness -- they suck energy and your joy.  


What do you do?  

Dr. Mitchell Perry




Dealing with Difficult People in Business

People can be difficult... and dealing effectively with people in business is crucial to your success. When you learn how to identify people's behavior in business you are way ahead of the game, and your career (and sanity) will benefit enormously. These benefits can be of great value in the following circumstances:



1.   When applying for a job

2.   Asking for a promotion

3.   Maintaining balance and equilibrium on the job

4.   Gaining a new account

5.   Succeeding in the merger or acquisition of your company

6.   Navigating through the political waters at work


Let's begin by identifying some popular difficult personality types.

     1.  The Hostile - This type includes:

• The Bully - the boss or coworker or business contact who takes pleasure in running over you
• The Sniper - the person who says something nasty and pretends to be innocent
• The Exploder - Their favorite line is "Don't make me mad," so you are always on guard for an explosion.

     3. The Unresponsive - They are silent, non-communicative, unemotional, and distant. It is impossible to tell what their position is on anything.

     4. The Indecisive - Perpetually ambivalent, uncommitted; they are afraid of making mistakes, being wrong, and being exposed.

     5. The Judge/Calculator - "Let me analyze this," remaining critical, pejorative, everything is slightly flawed and imperfect.

     6. The Passive/Aggressive - Appearing compliant while sabotaging, undermining, and criticizing all the time.

 Sound familiar? What do you do about these types when you have to work with them, answer to them, persuade them?

Here are some effective strategies that you can use: (Remember that different types require different tools, and it is helpful if you can use many people tools in your tool box).

1.  Keep a smile going, remain strong, impervious to the manipulations (works well on the Negative Complainers).

2.   Remove yourself (when possible) from the difficult person (it's a frustration when they are without an audience) (works on the Bully).

3. Validate their opinion before you counter with yours. They will be less difficult when they feel valued.

4. Listen first. Listening is the best way to get your point across. As Dr. Stephen Covey says in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, seek first to understand, then be understood (works on everyone, especially the Judge/Calculator).

5. Replace "Yeah But" in your dialog with "On the other hand." This small change will calm down escalation of contests and conflicts.

6. Ask them to help you understand. People are less likely to be difficult   when asked for help (works on the Indecisive and Unresponsive).

7.  Reinforce their value following a criticism. People respond to what they heard last, therefore they will be less defensive.

8.  Engage in three or more options. People will be less contestual when there are multiple options available.

9.  Replace "you should" with "you might," or "I encourage you to." People get very difficult when they hear the word "should".

10.  Expose the routine. Announce your confusion with mixed messages from them (sometimes effective on Passive/Aggressive).

Above all, maintain your power and your sense of humor. People can only wreck your day with your consent. Though certainly difficult people often appear to want you to enjoy their misery with them, keep in mind you can always allow them to enjoy their private party by themselves. Remember the movie, "War Games?" At the end of the movie, the computer concluded "The only way to win, is not to play."   How true sometimes.

Are you an emotional eater medicating with food?  That's insane - would you take a laxative for a skin disorder?  No... so why would you eat a gallon of ice cream because you are lonely?  


It's time to pull yourself together!

Dr. Mitchell Perry  



THE PERRY PLAN
"Winning the Losing Game"

Something is clearly missing!  The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention ("CDC") says that a third of the country is currently obese.  Obesity is overtaking smoking as the biggest threat to our health and the numbers continue to rise every year!

Obesity raises the risk of heart disease, some cancers, diabetes, high blood pressure, and arthritis.  The CDC has concluded that obesity causes about 25,814 deaths annually in the United States.  Moreover, the financial costs to healthcare are staggering!

The price you pay for being overweight is huge!

Your self esteem
Your relationships
Your wallet
Your health
Your productivity
Your quality of life

The "Perry Plan" places the onus for losing weight back where it belongs -- with the participant -- rather than on quick fix diets du jour.  Instead of concentrating on what goes in your mouth, concentrate on what is between your ears!

So, how do you sabotage your own commitments to lose weight?  

Loss of control
Emotional or situational upset
You discount any improvements
Your defeatist attitude prevails
Lack of accountability either internal or external
Small setbacks trigger feelings of total failure
Learned helplessness and chronic powerlessness
Unable to stick with your commitments
Therefore, you give up and feel pessimistic!

The Solution:  THE PERRY PLAN.  It will give you the tools to insure your power to stick with your commitments to change your life for good:   


LOCOMOTION:  The power to move and keep moving.

OBSERVATION:  The skill to eat only when you are hungry.

The awareness of why you are eating.

MOTIVATION:  Inclusion - The OPTIMISM skill for POWER  to stick with your commitments.

RECOVERY FROM SETBACKS:  The power to get back in the saddle when you sabotage yourself.


At last, a proven program that will teach you to reprogram your state of mind to one of OPTIMISM and POWER.  When you are powerful you will stick with your commitments, lose weight, keep it off, and change your life for good.  


 

Hello:

People are shoulding on themselves and each other all the time!  The ongoing result is pushback and misery.

Dr. Mitchell Perry


"Shoulding on Yourself and Others"

Have you ever noticed how often people will talk to us about a problem, and we begin to tell them what they "should" do about it? Even after hearing our sage advice, irrespective of how practical, logical, and sensible it might be, they dig in their heels and resist what you claim they "should" do.

We also do this to ourselves. Have you noticed yourself saying, "I should do this" or "I really should avoid doing that," and then you steadfastly resist whatever it is you're telling yourself to do? Have you ever noticed how miserable people feel whenever they compulsively keep doing whatever it is they think they should do, rather than what they want to do?  It seems there are so many things they should do, say, think, feel, quit, start, etc., that they seldom get around to enjoying anything.

If all of this sounds familiar, you are an unknowing participant in the "should bind."  What you may have failed to consider is that whenever you deal with a "should," you have immediately created an obstacle to any progress or success.  A "should" is a put-down, designed to point out how stupid the person is who receives it.

Suppose you have a friend who is overweight and out of shape.  For a long time, you have been watching your friend overeat without exercising.  You are now concerned about his physical condition because these eating habits are jeopardizing his good health and longevity.  So, you say, with admirable intentions:  "John, you should lose weight.  You should diet and exercise because you know your current weight is unhealthy for you."  Notice how your friend handles these remarks!  He appears affronted and upset and simply refuses to heed them regardless of their validity.  Why?  What you have really told him is that he is stupid - if he was smart, he would have already lost the weight!  The "should" was, in reality, a put-down that resulted in a typical resistant stance.

You "Should" on yourself too!  You may notice too that whenever you tell yourself you should diet and exercise, you are reluctant to do what you "should" do.  List all of your own "shoulds."  They may be overwhelmingly abundant and sound something like this:
 
I should lose weight.  I should stop smoking.  I should exercise. I should spend more time with my kids.  I should finish my degree.  I should call my mother.  I should be more patient.  I should listen.  I shouldn't feel guilty.  I shouldn't worry. I shouldn't take things so personally.

Perhaps your list appears endless.  Notice whenever you should on yourself out loud, you begin to feel badly, defensive, resentful and resistant?  There is a complete absence of motivation.

Sometimes, as parents, we tell our children what they "should" and "shouldn't" do, feel and behave.  Though our intentions are honorable and we have the utmost concern for their welfare, we become confused when often our children meet our advice with resistance.  Why is that?  In actuality, we have put them down rather than helped them out.  For instance, suppose your daughter is too frightened to swim and you say:  You shouldn't feel afraid.  You have really told your child that her feelings are stupid and invalid.  She will still feel afraid but now she also feels inferior and stupid because her fear has been undermined.

More closely examined, the "shoulds" are purely guilt producers.  The feeling generated by any "should" remark is initially guilt but this is quickly turned to resentment then resistance.  I have seldom known anyone who really liked being dealt "shoulds" on a regular basis.

An even more self-defeating "should" is placed in the past tense, namely, "I should have done this, or You should have remembered..."  To constantly berate yourself over what you should or shouldn't have done is unbelievably destructive.  Why?  Because it is impossible to alter the past!  It has already happened and is past the point of change.  To continually beat yourself about it is reactive and destructive.  Progress and improvement are impossible leaving room only for guilt and self-hate.

What is a solution to "Shoulding" on yourself and others?  

I heartily encourage you delete all "shoulds" from your vocabulary and substitute them with "mights" and "wants."  Remember that the first thing people will do when they feel forced is resist.  The "shoulds" are a form of force.  People resist vehemently.  Removing the "shoulds" from your dialogue will provide less force, thereby resulting in less unnecessary resistance.  There are three ways to rephrase the overused "should" in your daily conversations.  Each has a different level of intensity.  They are:

      "You might... "
      "I urge / encourage / suggest / recommend you consider... "
      "I want you to... "  

Notice if you say to your overweight friend, "John, you might want to lose weight," "I would encourage you to consider losing weight," or "I want you to lose weight."  He will feel much less resistant to your suggestion and more motivated to start losing weight because essentially he still has the option to refuse your advice without losing face or feeling stupid.  You, of course, select one of the three options depending on your style, the closeness of the relationship, and the desired level of impact.

Removing ourselves from the tyranny of the "shoulding" on ourselves by substituting the "wants" and "mights" is a beneficial change.  If you say to yourself, "I should lose weight," it is likely you will feel badly that you have yet to do it.  On the other hand, if you say, "I want to lose weight," it is more likely you will diet because your resistance is down, and your levels of guilt and bad feelings are diminished.

Remember, ultimately you are only going to do what you want to do.  You will be impressed with how much more you can get done with less resistance when you concentrate on changing those "shoulds" to "wants."  I encourage you to take your list of "shoulds" and change them to "wants."  Then read them aloud and notice how you feel different immediately!

In summary, the "shoulds" create resistance, when either self-imposed, or levied on others.  Wipe out all the "shoulds" and consider the "mights" when speaking with others, and use the "wants" when speaking to yourself.  You will be quite surprised with the positive results.


 

Hello,


Taking things too personally is a colossal waste of time and energy. You will notice afterwards you had very little to do with what you catastrophized about. 


Dr. Mitchell Perry

Taking Things Too Personally "I take things too personally" is a remark I hear frequently from clients and friends. If your spouse comes home crabby, do you feel responsible, guilty, irritated, and finally, crabby yourself? If you fail to get an invitation to lunch, or to a party or wedding, do you take it personally and then doubt yourself and your popularity? If someone else gets the contract, do you believe you have failed to deliver? If your boss forgets to say good morning, do you automatically think that he/she is mad at you? If your guests want to go home early, does that immediately suggest they dislike your company?

Frequently, we have our whole day ruined because someone else's behavior rubs off on us, and we feel responsible. We often find that whenever someone else is upset, we feel a great pressure that somehow we are to blame. As a result, we take their behavior personally, which makes us defensive, anxious, miserable and insecure.

 It is important to gain some understanding as to the roots of this problem, and look at some possible reasons why we become hypersensitive and take things too personally. With this understanding, you'll gain some valuable perspectives on how to handle the problem.

1. Setting up a crisis to look for approval.
 Most of us have a great need for approval and validation from others. We want to get strokes and reinforcement on a regular basis from just about everybody. Sometimes, we will deliberately set up situations in order to receive reinforcement. When we take things personally, we are invariably upset by feeling responsible for another person's mood or behavior. Often this creates a crisis whereby other people now have to reinforce us and give us the approval that we're okay.

 2. Obtain insurance for belonging to others and against having to be alone.
 Many of us have a great problem with the thought of being alone. Moreover, many of us have spent our entire lives without ever having been alone, so the prospect of being alone creates great panic and anxiety. We'll strive consciously and unconsciously to connect and belong with other people. Taking things too personally is a device to ensure "belonging" with others. When you feel responsible for another person's behavior, you get to belong to that person's situation and therefore can avoid feeling alone. You may find that if you have a great need to take care of other people and belong to them, you will also tend to take personally many of the moods and situations that they own. In this way, hypersensitivity becomes a device which allows us to avoid being alone and promotes the feeling that we have a place of great significance -we get to be responsible (for someone else's behavior!)

3. Obtain insurance against maturing, growing up, and being an adult.
When taking things very personally, many people exhibit childish and infantile behavior. Sometimes they pout, behave in a socially inappropriate way, become very silent and cold, or become dramatic and explosive. Much of the time, this kind of behavior is both childish and counterproductive to progress in relationships. In addition, when people take things too personally, they fail to distinguish themselves from the behavior of others; they are unable to differentiate between what is inside or outside of them. They tend to lose track of whose behavior is whose! This condition, referred to as over-generalizing, occurs when an individual thinks that he/she is always, in some way, connected to the behavior of others (much the way children think). By taking something too personally, you have ensured that you can behave childishly because you think you must have something to do with another person's mood or behavior. Consequently, the process of maturing, growing, and being adult is retarded.

4. We get to enhance our narcissism.
 Narcissism is the tendency to be wrapped up in ourselves - thinking the world revolves around us. Most adolescents feel this way. They are obsessed with their clothes, activities, social groups, fads, language, and their impact on others. They delude themselves into thinking they are necessary and central to the progress of everything. Narcissism is the need to be significant and important. Taking things too personally enhances narcissism because if we think we must be responsible for external events, then we've just reinforced the delusional need to be important and significant to everything and everyone around us. Certainly the tendency to take things too personally is quite common and extremely counterproductive. Hypersensitive people are always ready to react to others around them and are rarely, if ever, in a proactive control position. In addition, the thinking focus is geared toward outcome rather than process. For these types learning is absent and is unfortunately replaced by observing, agonizing, and obsessing about themselves.

What can you do? When you observe distressing behavior in someone else and find you're taking it too personally, it will help to consider the following three questions:

1. "Am I responsible for what has just occurred?"
 When a loved one, friend, or business associate is in a bad mood, seems irritable, pouty, depressed, impatient, defiant, etc., ask yourself the question "Am I really responsible for this person's behavior?" Often you will realize that you are seldom if ever responsible, and the other person has chosen to behave that way for a myriad of reasons unconnected to you. Further, if the person refuses to tell you what is wrong, avoid fretting over the problem and feeling anxious about it yourself. Just let the person be miserable and give him/her permission to explain whenever he or she is ready.

2. Is this my problem?
 This question is critical. There are times when "yes" appears to be the only answer. Even when the other person's behavior has absolutely zero to do with you, it still appears to become your problem. However, it is important to remember that the problem only becomes yours when you choose to make it yours. It is much more likely, after some serious evaluation, you will conclude that the problem is in fact owned by someone else. So the answer to this question should typically be a very reassuring "no".

3. Do I have to get upset?
Certainly you can get upset if you want. You can become anxious, worried, and lean toward crisis-junkie catastrophizing, but do you really have to? Is it a necessary obligation that you must be upset? Remind yourself that being upset is a choice, and that you can choose to remain calm and unaffected by the other person's behavior. Further, it is important to renounce the thinking that becoming upset is a way of showing you care about another person. There are other numerous and appropriate ways of showing high regard. Caring is typically unrelated to self-thrashing.

These three questions are immensely helpful in controlling the natural knee-jerk reflex of becoming hypersensitive and taking things too personally. Whenever you start to automatically feel responsible for situations happening around you and begin doubting your own adequacy, these questions can help control that temptation.

So again, remember to ask yourself:
 1. Am I responsible for this person's actions? 
 2. Is this my problem? 
 3. Do I have to get upset? 

When one or more of the answers is "no"; you will begin to notice rapid growth and recovery in yourself, and waste less time on unnecessary conflict, anxiety, or hypersensitivity.

In conclusion, ask yourself the following: 1. What am I noticing about my tendency to take things too personally? 2. What are my options? 3. What am I learning about these options? 4. What will I now do differently? You will see rapid growth in yourself and spend far less time consumed with unnecessary conflict or anxiety.


Hey Guys!
When your woman gets emotionally spun-up -- sometimes she turns into the "Wicked Witch of the West" and so what do you do? Tell her she's irrational? Abandon her? Pour water on her?

Do you ever notice that those all work poorly? What to do instead? SCOOP HER! (See below)

Dr. Perry on You Tube New: Scooping

 The Magic is in the obvious... so, Embrace Common Sense!

 This is the latest in my You Tube videos... SCOOPING! It works! Check it out.

As we all know, common sense is very uncommon! That is why we have put together some video vignettes that are sensible, prudent, practical, logical, and reflecting sound judgement. There are now 12 video vignettes on several subjects including:

•  Responding to a Thank You 
• The Yeah Buts 
• The Success Formula 
• Taking Things Too Personally 
• Common Sense 
• Shoulding on Others 
• Reinforcement 
• Multiple Options 
• Thank You Notes 
• Announcing Your Honesty 
•  Scooping 

We've had great response so far, with over 2500 views! There are many more to come, so please let us know what you think. Log on to http://www.youtube.com/user/JMPerryLearning#p/u.

When you change your language, you will change your life. Tell it like it is!
 Dr. Mitchell Perry

Speak in Inclusion: The Road to Optimism
 If you could live the rest of your life more optimistically or pessimistically, which would you choose? I've asked that question of thousands of people in a dozen countries around the world and they always say the same thing - OPTIMISTICALLY. Why? Because most everyone suspects that living optimistically is better all around. The research shows that people who are more optimistic live longer, are healthier, recover faster from setbacks, lead happier lives, and are up to 50% more productive.

So, if all that is true, and most of us would prefer to be optimistic, how can we learn to do it?

I have found a method that works: Speak in the Language of Inclusion!

Consider this: most children up to age 12 are generally much more optimistic than adults. Then consider how they speak. They talk about what everything IS... "It's great, it's neat, it's awesome, it's stupid, it's boring, it's awful, it's the bomb." Kids speak this way all the time. They say what it IS, even when they are speaking about something they dislike.

Grownups on the other hand speak in Exclusion 90% of the time. They talk about what everything is NOT... "It's not bad, it's not a problem, it's not as bad as it looks, I have no argument, if nothing gets in our way, no problem, there's not a day that goes by that I don't want to, I don't see any reason why you can't, why don't you..."

If you start noticing your speech, you will notice your language is in EXCLUSION most of the time. Is it possible that this exclusionary language is also affecting your outlook?

If you are always talking about what is NOT there (what is missing) then it's quite difficult to be optimistic. Could it be that your habit of language is actually keeping you pessimistic?

So, what to do? Learn a lesson from children and CHANGE YOUR LANGUAGE TO INCLUSION. Simply look for the word "not" in your language and replace it with something inclusive. Instead of "no problem," say "it's a pleasure."

Instead of "why don't we," say "how about we." Instead of "I don't disagree," say "I agree." Instead of "not only that," say "in addition to that."

You will be amazed over time to see how this small change in your language will have a powerful effect on you and your outlook on life. Simply say what it IS instead of what it is NOT.

So, if you want to be more optimistic, change your language and change your life... Tell it like it is!

Hello Everyone! You must remember the power of three or more options whenever you have stress, upset, anxiety, or conflict. Multiple options will calm you down and help you to think clearly to resolve the issue.

Dr. Mitchell Perry

Create Multiple Options: The Most Powerful Key to Resolving Conflict and Engaging Recovery
When people are in any type of stressful situation or conflict, they become anxious and polarize i.e. think in TWO OPTIONS: right/wrong, good/bad, success/failure, all/nothing, ally/enemy, together/apart, win/lose, etc.
 When people polarize, they are stuck - usually fixated and obsessing on the negative of the two options: the bad, the loss, the failure, the wrong... which grinds any potential progress or resolution to a halt.
 The result? Constant fear, worry, anxiety, anger, suspicion, and conflict. You can see this behavior often in issues surrounding unions and management, religions, divorces, parenting, political parties, lawsuits, and government.
 What to do? In every situation, CREATE MULTIPLE OPTIONS - Minimum 3! It is amazing how powerful three options can be in any situation that might be problematic.
 Example: You are about to close an important sales deal with a client. You name your price and your client balks. Your client wants the "hamburger" but not at your price. It is looking like a lost cause. He pays your price or you walk. It is rapidly becoming an all or nothing situation.
 To break the deadlock, try changing your strategy: Offer him three options: "hamburger, cheeseburger, or cheeseburger with fries," three options, three price points.
 Set in the context of the magic third option, you will be amazed how reasonable the original hamburger option now appears to your client. And what's even better... he is now even considering the "cheeseburger with fries."
 The message is simple: In every conflict situation, CREATE MULTIPLE OPTIONS - MINIMUM 3! It works!

 TUNE-UP YOUR UNION WITH DR. MITCHELL PERRY ON THE COUPLES' CRUISE to MAJESTIC ALASKA - SEPTEMBER 7-14!
 Join this Couples' Cruise on September 7 through September 14 with renowned relationship expert Dr. Mitchell Perry on the magnificent ship, Infinity, touring the beauty and magic of Alaska.
 Enjoy his funny, lively, and informative sessions on relationships, love, and strengthening your union. Whether you are: going steady, engaged, married, been together for many years, or trying it one more time, this cruise is perfect for you and your partner.
 Private cocktail reception with Dr. Perry
Prepaid onboard gratuities
Several workshops with Dr. Perry Couples'
Camp 4-disc CD set
Champagne upon arrival in each stateroom
Other goodies and surprises!
This voyage with Dr. Perry is limited to 50 couples, so be sure to make your reservations early, as the first 5 couples to sign up will be able to attend an additional exclusive private workshop with Dr. Perry during the voyage.
 This adventure is the perfect combination of experiencing:
     The majesty of Alaska
     Cruising aboard the beautiful Celebrity Cruise Ship - Infinity
     How to tune-up your relationship with more love, fun, intimacy, commitment, and passion.
Every Couple attending will laugh, learn, and love the experience!
THE ULTIMATE VACATION FOR YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONE. CALL SANTA BARBARA TRAVEL AT 805 650 6999 or for more information go to: http://jmperrylearning.blogspot.com/2012/02/couples-cruise-to-alaska.html

The Perry Perspective
  
Hello Everyone!

The prison of dependency is very expensive.  To deliberately opt to be dependent and then complain about the very situation you chose is a new level of insanity. 


Dr. Mitchell Perry 



 THE PRISON OF DEPENDENCY

The fascinating thing is how many people deliberately opt for a dependency existence either personally, professionally, emotionally, and/or financially... then they spend their lives complaining and remaining hostage to the very condition for which they opted. 
Some examples to consider:
Government Workers (the Public Sector) - They tend to go down a path that is often predetermined.  They trade their control over their destiny for the illusion that security is worth it.  They then are mostly rewarded by how LONG they have been working, rather than how WELL they are working.  Many often remain miserable people and expect a predictable pay grade, lifestyle, etc., all the while remaining malcontents simply because they choose to remain hostage to a situation that keeps them dependent. 
Good-looking Women (sex objects) who are with rich men (success objects) - Many of these women often go after men with money to gain the dependence on emotional and financial security (an illusion of safety), however, once they get the commitment they want from the man, many tend to change and treat the guy badly... they become critical, demanding, disapproving, and pejorative simply because they are dependent and are now "hostage" in their heads, to the man.  The very dependency they wanted is the very situation that now reminds them of their own weakness.  Therefore, they blame the guy and treat him badly.  (The more you give up responsibility for yourself, the more it makes you continually blame others for your condition.)
Healthcare Workers, Shift Workers at the Company Plant, and Retail Service Representatives.  For example, thirty years ago, being a flight attendant was a glamorous job with great pay, perks, and benefits  Over the years things have clearly changed... working conditions, passenger behavior, grooming, and the entire travelling experience.  I think this job is the last thing many flight attendants thought they would be doing thirty years later.  Clearly many of them appear to often feel hostage to the job because of seniority, vesting, or they are clueless as to what else they would be doing.  This has made many of them bitter and filled with TDC (thinly disguised contempt).  Therefore, it appears many often want the customers to enjoy their unhappiness.  Once again, the very dependency they opted for has made them hostage and therefore, weak, powerless, and unhappy. 
Divorce Agreements - It is clear that couples who are unable to reach agreement in divorce settlements are often very unhappy and complaining when the final disillusion decision is made by the courts.  The more the couple is dependent on the decisions of the judge, the more it creates anger and complaints.  On the other hand, couples who take responsibility together to arrive at acceptable divorce settlements tend to accept the results and move on with their lives with less complaining and going back to court. 
The Fabric of Society
As so many more people continue to adopt the ENTITLEMENT attitude where the "WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FOR ME LATELY?" perspective becomes ubiquitous, I expect that more and more people will give up control over their lives to government, disability support, dipping into the public treasury, unions, welfare, entitlements, etc., which simply continues to insure their unhappiness/misery as a consequence of wanting to be dependent.  As more people opt to be dependent, they want to be taken care of, and therefore, their initiative, self-respect, performance, and control over their lives evaporates.  Thus the omnipresent dependency addiction simply sucks the life out of society. 

Presently, according to a recent article, 48% of all families in the US today are dipping into the public treasury somehow.  This means that approximately half of the population is opting to be dependent on the other half... all while complaining and whining.  And, certainly the half that is paying is getting really tired of enabling the dependent people to remain dependent and whining. 

So it seems that people with this dependency addiction have 3 options:
Continue as they are, expect to be dependent, avoid responsibility for their lives, and keep complaining / whining. 
Continue the dependency behavior, except quit the complaining and whining.  Simply accept the security and keep quiet.
Decide to take responsibility / control for their lives and future, act more independent, take more initiative, and be more proactive. 

Abraham Lincoln said, "You cannot help the poor by destroying the rich.  You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong.  You cannot bring about prosperity by discouraging thrift.  You cannot lift the wage earner up by pulling the wage payer down.  You cannot further the brotherhood of man by inciting class hatred.  You cannot build character and courage by taking away people's initiative and independence.  You cannot help people permanently by doing for them, what they could and should do for themselves." 

It is time for us as a large group of citizens to grow up, establish more backbone, take responsibility for ourselves, appreciate what we have and quit demanding to be taken care of.

Further, if you remain dependent, then quit complaining about the very condition for which you opted. 

Only when you take responsibility for your life, your behavior, your decisions, and your future can you develop some real solid self-respect.  And, self-respect is critical if you want to like what you see in the mirror. 

IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT YOUR STRENGTH OF CHARACTER!

IT'S COMMON SENSE!
And remember, Common Sense is very uncommon!

 
 Strength of Character
Gaining competitive advantage by raising the bar

Strength of Character explores integrity, responsibility, and generosity of spirit in the business setting, driving a stake into the ground and defining the ethical standards by which business will need to be practiced in the coming decades.  This CD explains how leaders and workers can set a new course towards character standards that we all can agree are compelling and necessary.  The magic begins when individuals accept responsibility and start making ethical changes in themselves.   

Strength of Character CD:       $19.95
Strength of Character MP3:     $16.95

NOTICE!  Many of Dr. Perry's recordings are available on iTunes and Amazon.


 TUNE-UP YOUR UNION WITH DR. MITCHELL PERRY ON THE COUPLES' CRUISE to MAJESTIC ALASKA!

Join this Couples' Cruise with renowned relationship expert
Dr. Mitchell Perry on the magnificent ship touring the beauty and magic of Alaska.

Enjoy his funny, lively, and informative sessions on relationships, love, and strengthening your union.

Whether you are:
            going steady,
            engaged,
            married,
            been together for many years,
            or trying it one more time,
            this cruise is perfect for you and your sweetheart.

This voyage with Dr. Perry is limited to 50 couples, and be sure to make reservations early as the first 5 couples to sign up will be able to attend an additional exclusive private workshop with Dr. Perry during the voyage.

This adventure is the perfect combination of experiencing:
The majesty of Alaska
Cruising aboard the beautiful Celebrity Cruise Ship - Infinity
How to tune-up your relationship with more love, fun, intimacy, commitment, and passion.
Every Couple attending will laugh, learn, and love the experience!

THE ULTIMATE VALENTINES GIFT FOR YOU AND YOUR LOVE
CALL SANTA BARBARA TRAVEL AT 805 650 6999.

 Couples Camp 
 
Couples Camp is a private, confidential way to look at your relationship with your partner. Listen to this 4-hour program along with your partner and you will learn how to improve it, restore the quality of it, maintain the quality of it, or fix what is broken. Whether you're married, in a committed relationship, or thinking about taking your current relationship to the next level, this 4-hour Couples Camp is for you.

Together we will ask and answer the following:
          What is the foundation of our relationship?
          What do we want from each other?
          What kind of relationship do we have?
          What is wrong in our relationship?
          What is right with our relationship?

Couples Camp MP3 download only:   $39.95


 
 Dr. Perry on You Tube
 The Magic is in the obvious... so, Embrace Common Sense!

As we all know, common sense is very uncommon!  That is why we have  put together some video vignettes that are sensible, prudent, practical, logical, and reflecting sound judgement. 
 
There are now TEN video vignettes on several subjects including:
Responding to a Thank You
The Yeah Buts
The Success Formula
Taking Things Too Personally
Common Sense
Shoulding on Others
Reinforcement
Multiple Options
Thank You Notes
Announcing Your Honesty
We've had great response so far, with over 1800 views!  There are many more to come, so please let us know what you think. 

Log on to http://www.youtube.com/user/JMPerryLearning#p/u

If you want to DO WHAT YOU KNOW, you must equip yourself with the TOOLS to help you engage COMMON SENSE. 



  For You, Radio Worth Your Time! 

"THE DR. MITCHELL PERRY SHOW"
Applied Common Sense*
*Because common sense is very uncommon... (and you CAN fix stupid!)
 
The Dr. Mitchell Perry Show: Applied Common Sense* Because common sense is very uncommon... airs Saturdays from 9:00 am - 11:00 am (Pacific) on KVTA AM1520.  It is a little bit reasoning, a little bit education, a lot of laughs, and a whole lot of fun!  Every Saturday morning Dr. Perry takes calls LIVE on his radio show on everything -- including relationships, business advice, personal growth, and the ever popular... "Common Sense is very Uncommon!"
He has a knack for saying it like it is without beating down his listeners.  You can be sure that if there is an answer to your problem, Dr. Perry will help you figure it out.  Listeners call in to get advice, discuss the day's events or simply to give their opinion on the latest topics.

The number to call the studio live is toll free 
855- DR-PERRY (377-3779).

You can also listen to the show by logging on to http://www.kvta.com/ and then click on "LISTEN LIVE."


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JM Perry Learning 


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Hello Everyone!

When you ask others for help, they will likely say "yes," you will get the help and feel more connected.  The paradox is that you prevent the very thing that works.
Ask for help!

 Dr. Mitchell Perry 



 Engage the Power of Relationships

Human beings need contact, closeness, and affiliation.  Connection is so important that solitary confinement is often used in prison as a means of punishment.  People are generally happier when they feel close, connected, loved, and appreciated.  And, the most common psychological disorder in people is depression.  What is depression?  Depression sets in when the gap is too wide between how one thinks life should be and how it is.  And the biggest contributor to depression is loneliness, feeling rejected, alienated, disconnected, and separate from other people. 

SO THE MESSAGE IS... GET CONNECTED!

Notice how often you can get more done with people helping.  And, notice how often you want to ask someone for help, but are reluctant either because you are afraid you may be turned down, or you will be perceived as weak. 

However, be reminded of the following axiom:
The first impulse most people have when OFFERED help is to say NO!
But, the first impulse most people have when asked for help is to say YES!
So, remember to engage the power of relationships by asking for help!  To do that, you must change the association you may have between asking for help and appearing weak.  Rather than associate WEAKNESS with the thought of asking for help, associate STRENGTH instead.  Besides, if you do get help, and the resources you need, are you now weaker or actually stronger? 

People like to feel important and asking for help or advice is a great way of making someone feel valued. 

So, start a new behavior pattern... associate strength with asking for help.  Then, start connecting with people and find strength in the power of the group  Engage the power of relationships and replace the "you or me" with "you and me." 
 

 
 Dr. Perry on You Tube
 The Magic is in the obvious... so, Embrace Common Sense!

As we all know, common sense is very uncommon!  That is why I have  put together some video vignettes that are sensible, prudent, practical, logical, and reflecting sound judgement. 
 
So far, there are nine video vignettes on several subjects including:
The Yeah Buts
The Success Formula
Taking Things Too Personally
Common Sense
Shoulding on Others
Reinforcement
Multiple Options
Thank You Notes
Announcing Your Honesty
We've had great response so far, with over 900 views!  There are many more to come, so please let us know what you think. 

Log on to http://www.youtube.com/user/JMPerryLearning#p/u

If you want to DO WHAT YOU KNOW, you must equip yourself with the TOOLS to help you engage COMMON SENSE. 


 
 The Magic of Teamwork
The Secrets of Getting Individuals to Team.

STAR-D: The Secrets of Getting Individuals to Team

START
TRUST
ASK FOR HELP
REINFORCE
DIALOGUE - Open-Ended Questions, Multiple Options and Language Inclusion
 
This program has been market tested with thousands of teams around the world for over thirty years.  It has a track record of accuracy, originality, and authenticity and has delivered consistent and proven results. 

The Magic of Teamwork CD:      $19.95
The Magic of Teamwork MP3:    $16.95 

NOTICE!  Many of Dr. Perry's recordings are available on iTunes and Amazon.

 
 "THE DR. MITCHELL PERRY SHOW"
Applied Common Sense*
*Because common sense is very uncommon... (and you CAN fix stupid!)
 
The Dr. Mitchell Perry Show: Applied Common Sense* Because common sense is very uncommon... airs Saturdays from 9:00 am - 11:00 am (Pacific) on KVTA AM1520.  It is a little bit reasoning, a little bit education, a lot of laughs, and a whole lot of fun!  Every Saturday morning Dr. Perry takes calls LIVE on his radio show on everything -- including relationships, business advice, personal growth, and the ever popular... "Common Sense is very Uncommon!"
He has a knack for saying it like it is without beating down his listeners.  You can be sure that if there is an answer to your problem, Dr. Perry will help you figure it out.  Listeners call in to get advice, discuss the day's events or simply to give their opinion on the latest topics.

The number to call the studio live is toll free 
855- DR-PERRY (377-3779).

You can also listen to the show by logging on to http://www.kvta.com/ and then click on "LISTEN LIVE." 

 

Cheers,

Dr. Mitchell Perry
JM Perry Learning 


For more information about JM Perry Learning or JM Perry Products, go to http://www.jmperry.com/ or call 1 (855) DR PERRY.

Dr. Perry would love to speak to your organization!  Call 1 (855) DR PERRY for details!