Wednesday, June 29, 2016
When you believe you are defective, and weak, you are... on the other hand, when you believe you are good and worthy, you are. So, which one do you want to believe?
At your service,
Dr. Mitchell Perry
WHAT YOU BELIEVE, YOU WILL PROVE
Your state of mind has a huge impact on the way you conduct yourself. Your ongoing beliefs determine a tremendous amount of the way you look at reality and apply those perspectives.
Even if your beliefs are completely unreasonable, unrealistic, and irrational, you are likely to continue to proceed with your habits reflective of those beliefs. Therefore, before you begin to change your conduct, it is very important to first take an examination of your beliefs in the first place to determine if they are sane, reasonable, and realistic.
Examples of popular beliefs:
SO, WHAT DO YOU DO ABOUT THIS?
First it is very important to examine and acknowledge your ongoing foundational beliefs. Determine how much of what you believe is unreasonable, irrational, and unrealistic.
Then there are 3 steps to operate from a realistic, rational, and reasonable point of view:
The late Dr. Albert Ellis outlined the most popular irrational beliefs that most people believe. These are all counter-productive, unreasonable, and self-defeating. Take a look at them, decide which of them sounds like you, and then consider how you might rewrite them to new and improved beliefs.
THE IRRATIONAL BELIEFS
By Albert Ellis Ph.D
Remember that what you believe, you will prove.
Here is an example for your consideration. This is a popular belief you will notice is entirely unreasonable:
THE BELIEF THAT GOOD LOOKING AND ATTRACTIVE ARE THE SAME THING... AND, THAT IF YOU ARE LESS THAN ENTIRELY GOOD LOOKING... THEN YOU ARE UNATTRACTIVE.
"If I am not beautiful / good looking, then I am not attractive."
Give some thought to that. Is beautiful and attractive really the same thing?
Ask yourself the following: Are there some attractive people who are less than beautiful / good looking? Of course.
Likewise, are there some beautiful / good looking people who are quite unattractive? Absolutely!
So what makes people attractive?
So what makes people beautiful and good looking?
Therefore, if you look at the above, you will notice that many people who are attractive possess MANY qualities that are distinct from being good looking / beautiful.
So, ATTRACTIVE IS OFTEN QUITE DIFFERENT FROM BEING BEAUTIFUL / GOOD LOOKING.
On the other hand, if you think that you can only be attractive if you are good looking, then you are setting yourself up for a let-down.
SO, CONCLUDE THAT YOU CAN BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN BE QUITE ATTRACTIVE WITHOUT REQUIRING YOURSELF TO BE GOOD-LOOKING.
If you believe something irrational and unreasonable, you will continue to prove it in a very self-defeating manner.
When you replace your beliefs with something sane and reasonable, you will be more productive and functional.
CHANGE YOUR BELIEF, CHANGE YOUR LIFE.
WHAT YOU BELIEVE, YOU WILL PROVE.
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