Thursday, April 7, 2016
Dr. Mitchell Perry
You are quite a role model!
Hello ,
During this election time in our country where we decide on a
new President, we are confronted with making choices among some curious
candidates.
Some of these "characters" seem to have remarkably
underwhelming CHARACTER.
Further, it seems that our country is very unhappy because our
standards have declined in too many areas. And, too often, we have enabled that
with our choices and our own standards.
So, when you vote, consider the CHARACTER of the candidate when
you make your choice.
IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT YOUR CHARACTER.
At your service,Dr. Mitchell Perry
It's
Always About Your Character
Sometimes we gain wisdom, and that happens when we have our
experience collide with reflection on that experience. When we reflect
on our experience... we often learn lessons. Those lessons are
invaluable to help us make course corrections in our life journey.
Life is short, and too often we say along the way, "If I
knew then what I know now..." And we say that with regret because we
stalled for too long to learn the lessons.
So, in your saner reflective moments in life, you might notice
that your character plays such a huge role in the quality of your life.
Your character is made up of:
- Your basic governing standards
- Your values
- Your standards of conduct
- Your rules of engagement
- Your priorities in life
- Your self-respect
Every morning, whether you like it or not, you wake up inside
your own skin.
"Wherever you go, there you are, so there you
go!" Which means you have to live with yourself, your feelings, your
choices, and your behavior. And, just like compounded interest in a bank
account, there are long-term effects to those choices and behaviors.
At the end of the day, the measure of your life is inevitably
determined by your CHARACTER and all its strengths and weaknesses. IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT YOUR CHARACTER!
So, what is the condition of your character? What are your
basic governing values? What are the moral principles by which you want
to live? What is the gap between what you espouse and what you
practice? There is always going to be a gap; just how wide is it?
Is that okay with you?
The essential qualities for Strength of Character
include:
- INTEGRITY:
Honesty, legitimacy, the straight stuff, and full disclosure. The
willingness to be unpopular at times, by telling the truth. The
absence of lying, tap-dancing, pretending, spinning, stalling, distracting,
rationalizing, justifying, and avoiding. It's doing the right
thing.. and most of the time we know what it is.
- RESPONSIBILITY: Your
life is completely your responsibility. As an adult, you own your
situation -- you are responsible for your choices, your decisions, your
preferences, your relationships, your financial health, your conduct, and
your actions. If life is going well for you, you probably made
it happen. If life is going poorly, you did that too. And,
if life is a giant boatload of underwhelming and wasting time, you did
that too. The cards dealt to you are yours to play with; good or
bad. So take accountability, make your choices, apologize, clean up your
mess, take your lumps and get on with it. The energy spent on
whining, complaining, and problem describing will be so much better spent
on problem solving.
- GENEROSITY OF SPIRIT: This
part of your Strength of Character is about giving more than
taking, contributing more than consuming, caring more than expecting,
investing more than expensing. This part of you is where you are
comfortable inside your own skin because you can find your calm, live in
the light, derive meaning, and hear the quiet. "You get more than
you give when you give more than you get." (Hmmm... random
acts of kindness!)
People will respect you directly proportional to your
self-respect. Respect that person in the mirror!
Commit to integrity, Responsibility of Spirit... and then share
your values and spread them around.
You are quite a role model!
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Today's Tickle
BECAUSE I'M A
MAN
Because I'm a man
-- when I lock my keys in the car, I will fiddle with a coat hanger long
after hypothermia has set in. Calling AAA is out of the question.
I will win.
Because I'm a man
-- when the car is running poorly, I will pop the hood and stare at the
engine as if I know what I'm looking at. If another man shows up, one
of us will say to the other, "I used to be able to fix these things but
now with all these computers and everything, I am clueless where to
start." We will then drink a couple of beers and break wind, as a
form of holy communion.
Because I'm a man
-- when I catch a cold, I need someone to bring me soup and take care of
me while I lie in bed and moan. You're a woman. I will always get
sicker than you, so for you, this is cake.
Because I'm a man
-- I can be relied upon to purchase basic groceries at the store, like
steaks, milk or bread. I cannot be expected to find exotic items like
tofu or tampons. For all I know, these are the same thing.
Because I'm a man
-- when one of our appliances stops working, I will insist on taking it
apart, despite evidence that this will just cost me twice as much once the
repair person gets here and has to put it back together.
Because I'm a man
-- I must hold the television remote control in my hand while I watch
TV. If the thing has been misplaced, I may miss a whole show looking
for it... though one time I was able to survive by holding a calculator
(former applies mainly to engineers).
Because I'm a man
-- I carry with me a wallet... this item often fits in my pocket, and
therefore, carries largely what I need every day -- some money, credit cards,
ID cards, etc. You carry a purse. Certainly you can choose to put
in your purse any number of items that you deem to be critical and necessary
for your ongoing day-to-day existence. Understand that asking me to
carry and/or hold your purse is UNTHINKABLE, especially in public.
Please know that you and you alone will be hauling all that stuff
around.
Because I'm a man
-- it is unnecessary to ask me what I'm thinking about. The true
answer is always either golf, cars, sports or sex. I have to make up
something else when you ask, so avoid asking.
Because I'm a man
-- it is unnecessary to ask me if I liked the movie. Chances are,
if you're crying at the end of it, I disliked it, and if you are feeling
amorous afterwards, then I will certainly at least remember the name of the
movie and recommend it to others.
Because I'm a man
-- I think what you're wearing is fine. I thought what you were
wearing five minutes ago was fine too. Either pair of shoes is
fine. With the belt or without it looks fine. Your hair is
fine. You look fine. Can we just go now?
Because I'm a man
-- and this is, after all the year 2016, I will share equally
in the housework. You just do the laundry, the cooking, the
cleaning, the vacuuming, and the dishes, and I'll do the rest...
like hosing down the patio and wandering around in the garden with
a soda, wondering what to do next.
This has been a
public service message for women to Better Understand Men.
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