Wednesday, June 29, 2016

July - What You Believe, You Will Prove


Hello, 

When you believe you are defective, and weak, you are... on the other hand, when you believe you are good and worthy, you are.  So, which one do you want to believe?   

At your service,

Dr. Mitchell Perry  

WHAT YOU BELIEVE, YOU WILL PROVE

Your state of mind has a huge impact on the way you conduct yourself.  Your ongoing beliefs determine a tremendous amount of the way you look at reality and apply those perspectives. 

Even if your beliefs are completely unreasonable, unrealistic, and irrational, you are likely to continue to proceed with your habits reflective of those beliefs.  Therefore, before you begin to change your conduct, it is very important to first take an examination of your beliefs in the first place to determine if they are sane, reasonable, and realistic. 

Examples of popular beliefs:
  1. If you believe people are bad, untrustworthy, and manipulative, you will act in a way that maintains ongoing mistrust of them. 
  2. If you believe you are inadequate and defective, you will continually prove that in your habits, i.e., giving up before you start. 
  3. If you believe you must have everyone approve of you, you will continually try to get that approval even if that means you must compromise your principles along the way.
  4. If you believe you must win and/or avoid losing, then you will routinely become defensive and prefer arguing rather than reaching agreement with people.
  5. If you believe the world is a very dangerous place, then you will continually operate from fear and worry, and will avoid new initiatives because of your fear. 
  6. If you believe that you are fundamentally unlovable, you will prove it by avoiding any long-term and committed relationships. 
  7. If you believe that you are rarely responsible for anything, and responsibility always lies with everyone else, then you are likely to play victim and routinely blame everyone for your situation.
  8. If you believe you are stupid and unable to compete with people who are smart, then you will give up and withdraw before you even get started.
  9. If you believe that anxiety and fear are good motivators, then you will always use fear to propel you, and you will continually feel inadequate and less than good enough.   
SO, WHAT DO YOU DO ABOUT THIS?

First it is very important to examine and acknowledge your ongoing foundational beliefs.  Determine how much of what you believe is unreasonable, irrational, and unrealistic. 

Then there are 3 steps to operate from a realistic, rational, and reasonable point of view:
  1. Illuminate the Irrational Belief:  clarify it; admit it as being something you have believed in for a long time... and that the belief is unreasonable and irrational.
  2. Dispute the Belief:  refuse to believe that ridiculous belief anymore.
  3. Replace the Belief:  rewrite the belief with a new one that is more reasonable, realistic, pragmatic, and practical. 
The late Dr. Albert Ellis outlined the most popular irrational beliefs that most people believe.  These are all counter-productive, unreasonable, and self-defeating.  Take a look at them, decide which of them sounds like you, and then consider how you might rewrite them to new and improved beliefs. 

THE IRRATIONAL BELIEFS
By Albert Ellis Ph.D
  1. "Everyone must love me and approve of me" --  The belief that it is a dire necessity for you to be loved or approved of by every significant other person in the community. (You may realize this is impossible... there are just too many people that you think must approve of you.) 
  2. "The Perfection Obsession" -- The belief that you must be thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving in all possible respects if you are to consider yourself worthwhile. (Once again this is impossible since it is very difficult to find someone who is perfect.)
  3. "The Bigot" -- The belief that certain people are bad, wicked, and villainous, and should be severely blamed and punished for their villainy.  (Really?  Do you notice how we as a species have been condemning others for years and attempting to wipe them out?  So, how has that worked out?) 
  4. "The Catastrophizer" -- The belief that it is awful and catastrophic when things are other than you would very much like them to be. (Many people are catastrophizers, awfulizers, and crisis junkies, and all they do is spend time obsessing about how awful things are.  There is always a difference between how life is supposed to be and how life is.)   
  5. "They Made Me Do It" -- The idea that human unhappiness is externally caused and you have little ability to control your sorrows and disturbances. (Here you are avoiding responsibility for yourself and blaming everyone else.)
  6. "The Worrier" -- The belief that if something is or may be dangerous or fearsome, you must be terribly concerned about it and must keep dwelling on the possibility of its occurring. (Here is the worry-wart, the obsessor, the chronic anxiety addict who is perpetually concerned about anything that might be frightening.) 
  7. "The Avoider" -- The belief that it is easier to avoid rather than to face certain life difficulties and self-responsibilities. (You might want to ask yourself a question: "Is it really easier to avoid it?") 
  8. "The Dependent" -- The belief that you are weak and must be dependent on others... you need someone stronger than yourself on whom to rely. (If you think about this, you are deliberately choosing to be weak and dependent, then feeling upset about the very dependency that you opted for, and then deciding you are entitled and someone else is supposed to rescue you and fix your situation.)
  9. "That's Just the Way I Am" -- The belief that your past history is an all-important determiner of your present behavior, and because something once strongly affected your life, it must indefinitely have a similar effect. (Here you are justifying your bad habits by saying that it's "just the way you are" so YOU can avoid doing anything about it.) 
  10. "If You're Upset, I Must be Too" --  The belief that you must become quite upset over other people's sorrows and disturbances. (Here you are thinking that you are unable to be happy if someone you love is unhappy, and that your happiness is completely dependent on someone else happiness.  Really?) 
  11. "Get the Right Answer!" -- The belief that there is invariably a right, precise, and perfect solution to human problems, and it is awful and bad if you fail to arrive at this perfect solution. (Remember that life is messy and unfair.  Therefore, it is reasonable to believe that everything has to have a right and perfect solution, and that something that might be merely acceptable is wrong?) 
Remember that what you believe, you will prove.

Here is an example for your consideration.  This is a popular belief you will notice is entirely unreasonable:

THE BELIEF THAT GOOD LOOKING AND ATTRACTIVE ARE THE SAME THING... AND, THAT IF YOU ARE LESS THAN ENTIRELY GOOD LOOKING... THEN YOU ARE UNATTRACTIVE.

"If I am not beautiful / good looking, then I am not attractive."

Give some thought to that.  Is beautiful and attractive really the same thing?

Ask yourself the following:  Are there some attractive people who are less than beautiful / good looking?  Of course.

Likewise, are there some beautiful / good looking people who are quite unattractive?  Absolutely! 

So what makes people attractive?
  • Engaging and impressive
  • Funny and charming
  • Interested and therefore interesting
  • Fascinating and thought provoking
  • Cute and eccentric
  • Peculiar and non-conformist nature
  • Smart and educated
  • Eloquent and articulate
  • Worldly and forthright
  • Strength of character and high standards
  • Operating from strength and self-respect
  • Gracious and polite
  • Charitable and forgiving
  • Childlike and adorable
  • Politically incorrect
  • Passionate and intense
  • Outrageous and provocative
So what makes people beautiful and good looking?
  • Great facial features
  • Terrific colors and contrasting accompanying proportions
  • Great body and architecture
  • Great hair and classic features
  • Fortunate genetic  gifts
  • Membership in the lucky sperm club
Therefore, if you look at the above, you will notice that many people who are attractive possess MANY qualities that are distinct from being good looking / beautiful. 

So, ATTRACTIVE IS OFTEN QUITE DIFFERENT FROM BEING BEAUTIFUL / GOOD LOOKING.

On the other hand, if you think that you can only be attractive if you are good looking, then you are setting yourself up for a let-down. 

SO, CONCLUDE THAT YOU CAN BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN BE QUITE ATTRACTIVE WITHOUT REQUIRING YOURSELF TO BE GOOD-LOOKING. 

REMEMBER:
  1. Illuminate the Irrational Belief - clarify it; admit it as being something you have believed for a long time... and that the belief is unreasonable and irrational.
  2. Dispute the Belief - refuse to believe that ridiculous belief anymore. 
  3. Replace the Belief - rewrite the belief with a  new one that is more reasonable, realistic, pragmatic and practical. 
If you believe something irrational and unreasonable, you will continue to prove it in a very self-defeating manner. 

When you replace your beliefs with something sane and reasonable, you will be more productive and functional.

CHANGE YOUR BELIEF, CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

WHAT YOU BELIEVE, YOU WILL PROVE.

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Thursday, April 7, 2016

April 2016 - IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT YOUR CHARACTER


Hello , 
During this election time in our country where we decide on a new President, we are confronted with making choices among some curious candidates.

Some of these "characters" seem to have remarkably underwhelming CHARACTER.
Further, it seems that our country is very unhappy because our standards have declined in too many areas. And, too often, we have enabled that with our choices and our own standards.
So, when you vote, consider the CHARACTER of the candidate when you make your choice.
IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT YOUR CHARACTER.
At your service,

Dr. Mitchell Perry  


It's Always About Your Character

 
Think about your life and how you are living it.  For most of us, our lives are filled with some great ups, some painful downs, and a whole boatload of underwhelming vanilla in the middle.  We frequently waste a lot of time either watching life go by, or stalling with great intentions to get going real soon.

Sometimes we gain wisdom, and that happens when we have our experience collide with reflection on that experience.  When we reflect on our experience... we often learn lessons. Those lessons are invaluable to help us make course corrections in our life journey. 

Life is short, and too often we say along the way, "If I knew then what I know now..."  And we say that with regret because we stalled for too long to learn the lessons. 

So, in your saner reflective moments in life, you might notice that your character plays such a huge role in the quality of your life. 

Your character is made up of:

  • Your basic governing standards
  • Your values
  • Your standards of conduct
  • Your rules of engagement
  • Your priorities in life
  • Your self-respect
Every morning when you wake up and look at yourself in the mirror, what do you see?  Are you pleased or embarrassed?  Proud or ashamed?  Impressed or depressed?  Excited or bored?  Energetic or listless?  Engaged or isolated?  Powerful or weak?  Do you feel meaningful or meaningless? 

Every morning, whether you like it or not, you wake up inside your own skin. 

"Wherever you go, there you are, so there you go!"  Which means you have to live with yourself, your feelings, your choices, and your behavior.  And, just like compounded interest in a bank account, there are long-term effects to those choices and behaviors. 

At the end of the day, the measure of your life is inevitably determined by your CHARACTER and all its strengths and weaknesses.  IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT YOUR CHARACTER!

So, what is the condition of your character?  What are your basic governing values?  What are the moral principles by which you want to live?  What is the gap between what you espouse and what you practice?  There is always going to be a gap; just how wide is it?  Is that okay with you?

The essential qualities for Strength of Character include:

  1. INTEGRITY:  Honesty, legitimacy, the straight stuff, and full disclosure.  The willingness to be unpopular at times, by telling the truth.  The absence of lying, tap-dancing, pretending, spinning, stalling, distracting, rationalizing, justifying, and avoiding.  It's doing the right thing.. and most of the time we know what it is.
  2. RESPONSIBILITY:  Your life is completely your responsibility.  As an adult, you own your situation -- you are responsible for your choices, your decisions, your preferences, your relationships, your financial health, your conduct, and your actions. If life is going well for you, you probably made it happen. If life is going poorly, you did that too.  And, if life is a giant boatload of underwhelming and wasting time, you did that too. The cards dealt to you are yours to play with; good or bad.  So take accountability, make your choices, apologize, clean up your mess, take your lumps and get on with it.  The energy spent on whining, complaining, and problem describing will be so much better spent on problem solving.
  3. GENEROSITY OF SPIRIT:  This part of your Strength of Character is about giving more than taking, contributing more than consuming, caring more than expecting, investing more than expensing.  This part of you is where you are comfortable inside your own skin because you can find your calm, live in the light, derive meaning, and hear the quiet.  "You get more than you give when you give more than you get."  (Hmmm... random acts of kindness!)
Establish a higher standard for yourself and your life.  Life is too short to live a vanilla life.  People will treat you how you teach them to treat you.

People will respect you directly proportional to your self-respect.  Respect that person in the mirror!

Commit to integrity, Responsibility of Spirit... and then share your values and spread them around.

You are quite a role model!

     
 

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Because I'm a man -- when I lock my keys in the car, I will fiddle with a coat hanger long after hypothermia has set in.  Calling AAA is out of the question.  I will win.
Because I'm a man -- when the car is running poorly, I will pop the hood and stare at the engine as if I know what I'm looking at.  If another man shows up, one of us will say to the other, "I used to be able to fix these things but now with all these computers and everything, I am clueless where to start."  We will then drink a couple of beers and break wind, as a form of holy communion.
Because I'm a man -- when I catch a cold, I need someone to bring me soup and take care of me while I lie in bed and moan.  You're a woman.  I will always get sicker than you, so for you, this is cake. 
Because I'm a man -- I can be relied upon to purchase basic groceries at the store, like steaks, milk or bread.  I cannot be expected to find exotic items like tofu or tampons.  For all I know, these are the same thing.
Because I'm a man -- when one of our appliances stops working, I will insist on taking it apart, despite evidence that this will just cost me twice as much once the repair person gets here and has to put it back together. 
Because I'm a man -- I must hold the television remote control in my hand while I watch TV.  If the thing has been misplaced, I may miss a whole show looking for it... though one time I was able to survive by holding a calculator (former applies mainly to engineers). 
Because I'm a man -- I carry with me a wallet... this item often fits in my pocket, and therefore, carries largely what I need every day -- some money, credit cards, ID cards, etc.  You carry a purse.  Certainly you can choose to put in your purse any number of items that you deem to be critical and necessary for your ongoing day-to-day existence.  Understand that asking me to carry and/or hold your purse is UNTHINKABLE, especially in public.  Please know that you and you alone will be hauling all that stuff around. 
Because I'm a man -- it is unnecessary to ask me what I'm thinking about.  The true answer is always either golf, cars, sports or sex.  I have to make up something else when you ask, so avoid asking. 
Because I'm a man -- it is unnecessary to ask me if I liked the movie.  Chances are, if you're crying at the end of it, I disliked it, and if you are feeling amorous afterwards, then I will certainly at least remember the name of the movie and recommend it to others. 
Because I'm a man -- I think what you're wearing is fine.  I thought what you were wearing five minutes ago was fine too.  Either pair of shoes is fine.  With the belt or without it looks fine.  Your hair is fine.  You look fine.  Can we just go now?
Because I'm a man -- and this is, after all the year 2016, I will share equally in the housework.  You just do the laundry, the cooking, the cleaning, the vacuuming, and the dishes, and I'll do the rest... like hosing down the patio and wandering around in the garden with a soda, wondering what to do next. 
This has been a public service message for women to Better Understand Men. 
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Tuesday, March 15, 2016

March 2016 - LOVE AND MARRIAGE

Hello,

During courtship, you and your partner are typically on your best behavior toward each other.  You are polite, generous, appreciative, loving, and respectful.  You routinely reinforce each other, you are sensitive to each other's feelings, and are keen to have your partner love and respect you.

Therefore, when you get married, you and your partner marry the "courtship behavior."

 It is insane to stop the very behavior you marry!

 So, restore the courtship behavior right away and you strengthen your union together!

 At your service,   

 Dr. Mitchell Perry
 
 
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Love and Marriage 
 
Regardless of how happy and fulfilling your marriage or relationship is, inevitably you will encounter difficulties and disappointments along the way.  Often times it is either because you have become emotionally malnourished, you both feel unloved and/or unimportant, your relationship needs a tune-up, or perhaps the magic has faded.  Most marriage partners fail to do the ongoing maintenance of the relationship to keep it healthy. 
 
To rebuild a relationship that has gotten lost over the years, you must have a clear, compelling picture of the relationship you want. Then you both must commit to become equipped with the skills and habits to creating and maintaining that renewed and nourishing relationship.  
 
A relationship lives in words and action, much like a play. If your relationship has become its own version of a bad play, then to make a better play (relationship), you must write and practice good scripts. 

One way that you can create good marriage scripts is by figuring out what you and your partner want out of the relationship.  In essence, it is time to "rewrite the screenplay." 
 
Start by having the following dialogue with your partner:
  1. What do you want me to know about you? What do you want/need from me?  (Attention, time, listening, etc.)
  2. Here's what I want you to know about me...  Here's what I need from you...  
  3. How would you say our normal conversations work?
  4. What is our predictable screenplay?  
  5. What are the road blocks to improving our marriage?  (Self pity, score keeping, name calling, guilt trips, indifference, withdrawal, etc.)
  6. What are we going to do differently going forward?
Be sure to find out what your partner wants, and then give your partner what your partner wants.  YOU MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!
 
Attention Husbands!  Find out what your wife wants and give it to her -- because you did during courtship!  Here is most likely what she wants:
  1. Listen to me and then listen some more (and look interested). 
  2. Pay attention to me and BE with me... because "I am who I'm with."  I am largely defined by my relationships.
  3. Empathize more and quit giving me advice (unless I ask for it). 
  4. Hold me, cherish me, show me I'm the one!  I must be the dominant source of your happiness. 
Attention Wives!  Find out what your husband wants and give it to him -- because you did during courtship!  Here is most likely what he wants:
  1. Look good, lose the weight, and dress up, because how you look is critical to me.
  2. Pay attention to me and DO with me... because "I am what I do."  I am largely defined by achievements. 
  3. Sexual gymnastics (complete with howling at the moon).
  4. Treat me like a king!  I must be a big deal in your eyes.
Take these steps with your partner and see what happens. 
 
Re-scripting your relationship can only lead to a better understanding of yourself... and your partner.
 
Then pay the freight, take initiative, practice new habits and restore the courtship. 
 
AND REMEMBER, REINFORCE EACH OTHER MORE THAN YOU CRITICIZE / IGNORE... 5 TIMES MORE!
  
 
 
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A BAPTIST COWBOY
A cowboy, who just recently moved from Texas to Wyoming, walks into a bar and orders three mugs of beer.
He sits in the back of the room, drinking a sip out of each mug in turn.  
When he finishes them all, he comes back to the bar and orders three more.  
The bartender approaches and tells the cowboy, "You know, a mug goes flat after I draw it. It would taste better if you bought one at a time."  
The cowboy replies, "Well, you see, I have two brothers. One is an Airborne Ranger, the other is a Navy Seal, both serving overseas somewhere. When we all left our home in Texas, we promised that we'd drink this way to remember the days when we drank together. So I'm drinking one beer for each of my brothers and one for myself."  
The bartender admits that this is a nice custom, and leaves it there.  
The cowboy becomes a regular in the bar and always drinks the same way.  He orders three mugs of beer and drinks them in turn.  
One day, he comes in and orders only two mugs.  
All the regulars take notice and fall silent.  
When he comes back to the bar for the second round, the bartender says, "I don't want to intrude on your grief, but I want to offer my condolences on your loss."  
The cowboy looks quite puzzled for a moment, then a light dawns in his eyes and he laughs.  
"Oh, no, everybody's just fine," he explains, "It's just that my wife and I joined the Baptist Church and I had to quit drinking."
"It hasn't affected my brothers though..."  
 
 
 
 
 
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Monday, February 22, 2016

February 2016 - THE PERRY PLAN

                                                       THE PERRY PLAN   

The Perry Plan... Winning the Losing Game 
Finally losing weight and keeping it off. 
                                              STICKING WITH YOUR COMMITMENT
                                                  The mental side of losing weight.  
 

Hello,
Most people generally feel pessimistic at the thought of losing weight and more important, keeping it off. 
It is so easy to give up and quit... simply because losing weight requires new habits and sticking with your commitments. Most of us have good intentions... and say to ourselves, "I am going to really eat less and exercise more this time." "I am going to start on Monday... and, of course, in the meantime, I am going to participate in huge 'LAST SUPPER' all weekend!"
So, you begin on Monday, and restrict yourself from everything you want to eat.  And you might even start exercising vigorously for a day or two. 
By Wednesday, you are tired, hungry and feel deprived and weak... you feel stupid, angry at yourself and want relief... so you give up and start all over again.
So how do you overcome your pessimism?  How do you program yourself to stick with your decisions, recover from setbacks, and go the distance to get healthy and stay that way? 
You have to reprogram your state of mind to OPERATE FROM STRENGTH. Becoming powerful takes learning how to do it followed by ongoing practice.   
Most people when they feel pessimistic generally give up, feel defeated, and sabotage their program to lose weight.  And it is very difficult to simply be disciplined when you are used to giving up.  Moreover, you may notice that more than half the time you are MEDICATING WITH FOOD.  You may feel fat, weak, stupid, unattractive, unloved, old, defective, and/or self-pity so you go medicate with food to feel better.  You order 2 large pizzas, a 6-pack of beer, and an ice cream chaser which actually does make you feel better... FOR THE FIRST 15 MINUTES... followed by more guilt, and weakness, and remorse.  To treat an emotional problem with food seems insane, and yet, when most people are doing just that, somehow it seems to make sense... at first. 
So what do you do?
You want learn how to change your state of mind by programming your brain to operate from strength.  You do this by changing your language. CHANGING YOUR LANGUAGE from WHAT IT IS NOT... TO WHAT IT IS.  This is called the Language of Inclusion©.
So instead of saying, "diets never work," you would say, "sticking to a diet is a challenge."  Instead of saying, "I can't eat that," say, "I can eat this."
Here are some examples for you to try.  Read each one out loud and notice how you feel when you say it.
     1.   "Don't forget diet and exercise are the keys to success."
 OR
     2.   "Be sure to remember a healthy diet and exercise are the keys to success."
     1.   "Don't delay starting the new weight loss program."
OR
     2.   "Get started right now on your new weight loss program."
     1.   "Don't put off exercising."
OR
     2.   "Exercise now.  Get going."


Notice you feel different and stronger when you say #2 out loud each time.  The key?  Say what it IS instead of what it is NOT.  Speak in the Language of Inclusion©.
Now you try it.  Simply take the examples below and reword them from what it is NOT to what it IS.  
  1. If I can't eat what I want, I can't enjoy life.
  2. If I don't begin to eat sensibly, I won't stay healthy.
  3. If I don't exercise, I can't lose weight.
  4. Diets don't work if you don't stick to them.
  5. If I don't make this diet work, I don't know what else I can do.
  6. There isn't a single weight loss program that doesn't include dieting and exercise.  
  7. If I can't have carbs, I don't want anything.
  8. I don't disagree with that.
  9. Junk food's not necessarily bad for me.
This certainly takes practice.  You will notice it is initially quite difficult to reword the sentence, with practice it will get easier.
 
Concentrate on routinely changing your language to the Language of Inclusion©. Talk about what IT IS INSTEAD OF WHAT IT IS NOT and you will see by far better results.  You will start programing your brain to be stronger over time. 
REMEMBER, IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO SIMPLY CHANGE YOUR MIND.  ON THE OTHER HAND, YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR LANGUAGE... WHICH WILL CHANGE YOUR MIND!
 
I heartily encourage you to get my PERRY PLAN Weight Loss Program.  The mental program to finally give you the strength and power to WIN AT THE LOSING GAME.  The method will help you stick with your commitments. 
More information below.  
At your service,  
 
Dr. Mitchell Perry               

 

THE PERRY PLAN
"Winning the Losing Game"
The mental side of losing weight. 

Concept:

There are thousands of diet products and programs on the market. Ultimately, you are responsible for the success of any weight loss program.
IT IS WHAT IS BETWEEN YOUR EARS THAT WILL BE THE SOURCE OF SUCCESS WITH LOSING WEIGHT AND KEEPING IT OFF.

How do you sabotage your own success?
  • Loss of control
  • Unrealistic expectations
  • Emotional or situational upset
  • Small setback triggers feelings of total failure
  • You discount any gains
  • Lack of accountability either internal or external
  • The defeatist attitude prevails
  • Learned helplessness and chronic powerlessness
 The Solution:
  1. Goal Setting (realistic and achievable)
  2.  Language of Inclusion© (the Optimism Tool to program yourself for strength)
  3.  Avoiding Traps (identify what knocks you back)
  4.  Recovery (how to handle setbacks)
  5.  Internalization of the Fundamental Four©
                  Locomotion
                 Observation
                  Motivation
                  Inclusion

 The PERRY PLAN teaches you how to do all of these things. It encompasses many behavioral tools including the four main components:

  1. Locomotion:  Just MOVE!  Any kind of movement to get your heart rate up.  Changing exercise to MOVE every day, even if it is just for a few minutes.  Brushing your teeth is a habit, it is non-negotiable, therefore, MOVE becomes the same habit.  Do something to get your heart moving.  Dance, swim, wax the car, walk around the block, just MOVE!
  2. Observation:  "Check the GAUGE."  Do you know what it is like to eat until you are satisfied?  Do you eat until you are extremely full?  Are you always hungry when dieting?  Learn to routinely check the GAUGE.  Are you empty, content, full, or stuffed?  Eat when you are hungry and stop when you are content. 
  3. Motivation:  For what are you eating;  nutrition?  Are you eating because you want nutrition and good fuel connection?  Are you are eating because you want to connect with others?  Could you connect without constantly eating?  Medication?  Are you treating an emotional condition with food?  Are you eating because you are lonely, stressed, depressed, or upset? Does eating actually relieve loneliness?  Does that make any sense?  Connecting with people probably will do a better job.  You will learn to understand and therefore control your insane habits while replacing them with common sense ones. 
  4. Inclusion:  This is the secret sauce... learning to change your language which will reprogram your brain to operate from strength. The Language of Inclusion© -- created and developed by Dr. Perry over 25 years -- this language skill has proven to improve the quality of life for many thousands of people worldwide.   
Dr. Perry has designed a complete package that will take you from overweight, to a brand new healthy you, both mentally and physically!
  • The Perry Plan workbook: Winning the Losing Game
  • The Perry Plan CD's - 3 audio CD's
  • Road to Optimism (CD, Book / DVD that started it all!

 
                            Today's Tickle                              
NOTICE!  ALERT! 
A highly dangerous virus called the "WEEKLY OVERLOAD RECREATIONAL KILLER" (WORK) is currently going around and is highly contagious.  If you come in contact with this WORK virus it is highly recommended that you go immediately to the nearest "BIOLOGICAL ANXIETY RELIEF"(BAR) center to take any of the following known antidotes:
  • WORK ISOLATING NEUTRALIZER EFFECT (WINE)
  • RADIOACTIVE UNWORK MEDICINE (RUM)
  • BOTHERSOME EMPLOYER ELIMINATION REBOOTER (BEER)
  • VACCINE OFFICIAL DEPRESSION KILLING ANTIGEN (VODKA)
You are highly advised after taking any of the above antidotes to post this notice without further delay to raise awareness.  The WORK virus is highly infectious to citizens in our society.
Thank you.
A public service for the preservation of the entitlement society. 
 

 
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