Showing posts with label Life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Life. Show all posts
Friday, November 18, 2016
Dr. J. Mitchell Perry
Hello,
FOR YOUR CONSIDERATION... as the season approaches.
Turkey Day is coming up very soon. And, the Holiday Season is
the most wonderful time of the year.
This is when we can get together and enjoy our time together, sharing laughs, fellowship, care, regard, affection, closeness, appreciation, respect, admiration, and generosity of spirit.
This is when we can get together and enjoy our time together, sharing laughs, fellowship, care, regard, affection, closeness, appreciation, respect, admiration, and generosity of spirit.
So, when you visit with those special people with whom you are
close, be sure to raise your glass and propose a toast to them and how
important they are. THE SINGLE BIGGEST NEED THAT PEOPLE HAVE TO BE MET IS TO
FEEL IMPORTANT. So, you can help fill that need once again and, you will likely
start the snowball rolling.
Life is short, and it is always important to replace criticism,
condemnation, distance, and indifference with love, appreciation, forgiveness,
and grace.
The best thing about the Holiday Season coming around it that is gives us reason to again become the best part of ourselves and appreciate those who make life worth living.
The best thing about the Holiday Season coming around it that is gives us reason to again become the best part of ourselves and appreciate those who make life worth living.
So, in that spirit... may we at JM Perry Learning wish you
all HAPPY TURKEY DAY! GOBBLE, GOBBLE!
With abiding respect and affection,
Dr. J. Mitchell Perry
CREATING BALANCE and FULFILLMENT in YOUR LIFE
Most people want to be
happy and successful.
Ask yourself what that
would mean to you. When you think about being quite happy what images
come to mind? In addition, what does being very successful look
like? Furthermore, what's the point... where's the meaning?
HAPPINESS
IS CLOSENESS. When you think about experiences
in life in which you were really happy, there were probably people important to
you in your memory and you were happy in large part because you felt CLOSE
to those people. The closer you feel to people you care about,
the happier you are. Generally, as humans, we do poorly alone. We
must have closeness, connection, intimacy and togetherness. The biggest problem
that most of us experience is anxiety and depression... and the biggest
contributor to that is loneliness, THE ABSENSE OF CLOSENESS. So, one key
objective in life is to routinely establish, build, and maintain some quality
and nourishing CLOSENESS in your relationships. Remember, a significant part of
your identity is called "I AM WHO I AM WITH" and your happiness
dimension is fed by that identity.
Closeness is usually
found and developed in your personal life.
SUCCESS
IS ACHIEVEMENT. When you think
of times in your life when you felt quite successful, you probably thought of
things that you achieved. Perhaps you completed college, wrote a
book, created a new personal best in sports, learned a new language, became an
entrepreneur, improved your community, resolved a huge conflict, wrote a hit
song, received an award for what you did, etc. Creating a goal
and achieving it builds a solid sense of identity, strength, and
autonomy. Continually achieving goals builds confidence and purpose which
develops the self and creates independence. So, another key objective in
life is to continually realize success by realizing ACHIEVEMENTS.
This part of your
identity is called "I AM WHAT I DO" and notice what happens to your
identity when you quit doing it. Too often, rather than becoming happy when
they retire, many people become depressed because they give up being important,
and relevant... which is why it is so important to figure out your next chapter
and go DO IT after you give up what you are currently doing.
Success is usually
found and developed in your work life.
CREATING
BALANCE. Some form of balance between both
dimensions of personal and professional life is essential for optimum happiness
and success.
People who are highly
professionally successful (always achieving) but always personally unhappy
(estranged, isolated, unconnected from people) are unbalanced on the success
side. They often end up driven and angry. They must start creating
valuable CLOSENESS to fix it. Remember, "I AM WHO I'M
WITH."
Likewise, people who
are personally very happy (close with significant people) yet very
professionally unsuccessful (unable / unwilling to achieve anything) are
unbalanced on the happiness side. They usually end up dependent,
clingy, and anxious because they are often consumed by fear. "I just
couldn't do that because I am uneducated, shy, unattractive, unskilled,
uncoordinated, stupid, weak, awkward, unlucky, difficult" etc.
You may remember
someone saying to you, "If you can't do it right, don't do it at all."
And you may have thought, "Then forget it, what's the point of even
trying?"
So now consider this
instead: DOING IT RIGHT IS SECONDARY... DOING IT IS PRIMARY! You must begin
to ACHIEVE things to fix it. Remember, "I AM WHAT I DO."
DEVELOP
MEANING. Fulfillment in life comes when
there is clear and evident meaning to your existence. Write down your
basic governing values. Contribute something to society as part of paying
the rent for your time here. Commit to something larger than
yourself and watch the development of grace.
Life
is really about touching lives and getting your life touched as a result.
Develop
closeness - I AM WHO I'M WITH, commit to achieving - I AM WHAT I DO,
and life becomes balanced.
Then
contribute to society in some way with your time, resources,
and grace. Meaning emerges and so does fulfillment.
Thursday, March 14, 2013
So you are in midlife and you notice life goes by so fast!
What's the point? What really matters anyway?
Answer: Touching people's lives and getting your life touched.
Dr. Mitchell Perry
Balancing Your Life
Most people want to be happy and successful. Ask yourself what that would mean to you. When you think of being quite happy what images come to mind? In addition, what does being very successful look like? Furthermore, what's the point?
HAPPINESS IS CLOSENESS. When you think about experiences in life in which you were really happy, there were probably people in your memory and you were happy in large part because you felt CLOSE to those people. The closer you feel to people you care about, the happier you are. So, one objective in life is to establish, build, and maintain some quality and nourishing CLOSENESS in your relationships. Closeness is usually found and developed in your personal life.
SUCCESS IS ACHIEVEMENT. When you think of times in your life when you felt quite successful, you probably thought of things you achieved. Creating a goal and achieving it builds a solid sense of identity, strength, and autonomy. Continually achieving goals builds confidence and purpose which develops the self and creates independence. So, another objective in life is to continually realize success by realizing ACHIEVEMENTS. Success is usually found in your professional life.
CREATING BALANCE. Some form of balance between both dimensions of personal and professional life is essential for optimum success and happiness. People who are highly professionally successful (always achieving) but always personally unhappy (estranged, isolated, unconnected from people) are unbalanced on the success side. They often end up driven and angry. They must start creating valuable CLOSENESS to fix it.
Likewise, people who are personally very happy (close with significant people) yet very professionally unsuccessful (unable / unwilling to achieve anything) are unbalanced on the happiness side. They usually end up dependent, clingy, and fearful. They must begin to ACHIEVE things to fix it.
DEVELOP MEANING. Fulfillment in life comes when there is clear and evident meaning to your existence. Write down your basic governing values. Contribute something to society as part of paying the rent for your time here. Commit to something larger than yourself and watch the development of grace. Life is really about touching lives and getting your life touched as a result.
Develop closeness, commit to achieving, and life becomes balanced.
Then contribute to society in some way with your time, resources, and grace. Meaning emerges and so does fulfillment.
Today's Tickle
These are classified ads which were actually placed in U.K. newspapers:
What's the point? What really matters anyway?
Answer: Touching people's lives and getting your life touched.
Dr. Mitchell Perry
Balancing Your Life
Most people want to be happy and successful. Ask yourself what that would mean to you. When you think of being quite happy what images come to mind? In addition, what does being very successful look like? Furthermore, what's the point?
HAPPINESS IS CLOSENESS. When you think about experiences in life in which you were really happy, there were probably people in your memory and you were happy in large part because you felt CLOSE to those people. The closer you feel to people you care about, the happier you are. So, one objective in life is to establish, build, and maintain some quality and nourishing CLOSENESS in your relationships. Closeness is usually found and developed in your personal life.
SUCCESS IS ACHIEVEMENT. When you think of times in your life when you felt quite successful, you probably thought of things you achieved. Creating a goal and achieving it builds a solid sense of identity, strength, and autonomy. Continually achieving goals builds confidence and purpose which develops the self and creates independence. So, another objective in life is to continually realize success by realizing ACHIEVEMENTS. Success is usually found in your professional life.
CREATING BALANCE. Some form of balance between both dimensions of personal and professional life is essential for optimum success and happiness. People who are highly professionally successful (always achieving) but always personally unhappy (estranged, isolated, unconnected from people) are unbalanced on the success side. They often end up driven and angry. They must start creating valuable CLOSENESS to fix it.
Likewise, people who are personally very happy (close with significant people) yet very professionally unsuccessful (unable / unwilling to achieve anything) are unbalanced on the happiness side. They usually end up dependent, clingy, and fearful. They must begin to ACHIEVE things to fix it.
DEVELOP MEANING. Fulfillment in life comes when there is clear and evident meaning to your existence. Write down your basic governing values. Contribute something to society as part of paying the rent for your time here. Commit to something larger than yourself and watch the development of grace. Life is really about touching lives and getting your life touched as a result.
Develop closeness, commit to achieving, and life becomes balanced.
Then contribute to society in some way with your time, resources, and grace. Meaning emerges and so does fulfillment.
Today's Tickle
These are classified ads which were actually placed in U.K. newspapers:
FREE PUPPIES
1/2 Cocker Spaniel, 1/2 sneaky neighbor's dog. ________________________________________________
FREE PUPPIES
Mother is a Kennel Club registered German Shepherd.
Father is a Super Dog, able to leap tall fences in a single bound.
_____________________________________________________________
JOINING NUDIST COLONY!
Must sell washer and dryer £100.
_____________________________________________________________
WEDDING DRESS FOR SALE .
Worn once by mistake.
Call Stephanie.
___________________________________________________________
And the WINNER is...
FOR SALE BY OWNER. Complete set of Encyclopedia Britannica, 45 volumes.
Excellent condition, £200 or best offer.
No longer needed, got married, wife knows everything.
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